Buzzing...

I am so excited about pursuing my own dream of building a platform the inspires and empowers our youth. There are so few role models and positive resources for teens yet they deal with an insurmountable amount of pressure from peers, media, parents, etc. It is my goal to make a difference and enable them to Shine ON!

~Keri

To be a fly...continued

Wow, that last post stirred up some interesting comments and emails. Let me say that those thoughts were not neccesarily my own but what I took from the conversations.

Yes, the really nice guy "the friend" most likely will not get the girl up front. I think every woman likes a bit of intrigued and excitement. However, ever woman ultimately wants a friend, someone she can trust, and someone who treats her with love and respect. The "good guy" if he understands that, I believe will get "the girl".

One of my friends wrote me this:
"I spent 10 years being a "nice guy" and having lots of friends that were girls and no girlfriends. Lasting relationships are built on friendship AND lust.

For men, lust is easy since it is usually physical. Women are far more difficult since it is a story/feeling that is usually more than just appearance. It is based on movies and romance novels (girly porn). Women are looking for a swashbuckling, knight, vampire, werewolf cowboy that has important things to do but makes a little time for you. Nice guys will take time off work to meet for coffee when the jerk blows off your date, and since the nice guy acts like your girlfrinds you treat them like it.
I found it far more effective to emulate the jerk for the first few dates and then go back to my normal nice guy personality once I was not in the friend zone. I don't know anyone that moved from friends to a relationship ... it always ends up with a lot of heart ache.

The same rejection happens with women too of course, but it is easier to figure out. Men usually have certain physical characteristics that they find attractive and if you don't fit those, then he will not be interested. If your physical appearance changes men will have no problem moving from friends to a relationship. Unfortunately the opposite holds true too. This is all a bit complicated and I may be a bit jaded. "

Thanks for the input!  

I feel a lot of it comes down to the type of girl the guy is going after....and vice-versa. I, for one, would not date a guy who treated me bad or "blew me off" but I am sure there are some that dig that. (that's a whole other topic)

In the end, there are all types out there and I still believe when you meet the right one you will know. What can I say...I'm such a romantic!

KM

To be a fly...

On the wall yesterday for most men would have been a HUGE eye opener as to how a group of beautiful and confident women feel about dating and men in general. We all sat around patiently for 7 hours (yes, I said 7 hours!!!) as we waiting to be called back to the audition room where we put in different situations on how we would help the guy get "the girl". The callback was for a new matchmaking show.

In the meantime the other ladies and I talked about life and...well you guessed it...MEN.

Here is what I concluded from our insightful conversation:

1. Some girls like "the game" while others want nothing to do with it

2. Some girls like the guy who treats them like garbage...however she will treat you that way in return.

3. One woman told us she treats every guy she is "into" like "he's ugly"....

4. MONEY (although nice) does NOT buy love! 

5. Trying to be someone you are not gets you nowhere except the door!!!

6. Nice guys in the end always get "the girl"....if they don't try too hard.

I hope that helps.

Shine ON!
KM

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Golf Capital Magazine

I had the distinct pleasure of writing an article for Golf Capital Magazine this month.

http://www.golfcapitalmagazine.com/digitalpublication/issue2/

I have wanted to write something for publication for some time now so when given the opportunity by the magazines owner and publisher, Dana Nichols, I jumped at the chance! Being relatively new to the game of golf, I quickly realized there were many parallels between the lessons of golf and the lessons of life. I love that with both golf and life you are constantly learning and evolving. Actually both become quite boring and monotonous. I hope you take a second to read the article...I would love your comments. It was actually much tougher that I thought it would be. It is one thing to speak to groups of people but it is another to put those thoughts down on paper in a way that actually makes sense. :)


Shine On!
Keri

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Keri